Bonfire Night has always been a childhood memory of mine filled with crackling bonfires, vibrant fireworks, and the sweet taste of treacle toffee made with my mum. Yet, as a child with undiagnosed ADHD and ASD, this magical evening often became an overwhelming sensory experience.
Imagine the sky lighting up with sudden sparkling bursts of colour, the cheering crowds, and the loud bangs that were both exhilarating and overwhelming. While I loved celebrating with everyone, I was swept up in a whirlwind of emotions and sensations. My mum, unaware of how deeply these experiences affected me, tried her best to contain my excitement, not realising I was struggling with sensory overload.
Many neurodiverse children, like me, face similar challenges during festive occasions. There’s ample advice on helping pets cope with fireworks, but support for neurodiverse children often feels lacking. This magical time of year can be particularly challenging, with lingering effects lasting long after the fireworks fade.
For neurodiverse children, loud sounds, bright lights, and bustling crowds can trigger intense sensitivities. Their responses, which may appear as hyperactivity, irritability, or withdrawal, are genuine reactions that deserve understanding and empathy.
These intense feelings can stimulate the Vagus nerve, which is essential for emotional regulation. Activities like gentle rocking, humming, or deep breathing can create a sense of calm and comfort.
To make Bonfire Night enjoyable for your neurodiverse child, consider these strategies:
Prepare Together:
Talk about what to expect, allowing your child to engage with the festivities from a quieter distance.
Create a Sensory Safety Kit:
Pack, noise-cancelling headphones, sunglasses, or comforting weighted toys. A bottle of rescue remedy for kids can also help manage potential meltdowns.
Have a Calm-Down Plan:
Designate a cosy, quiet space where they can practice deep breathing or enjoy slow rocking if feelings become overwhelming.
Prioritise Aftercare:
Remember that the effects of sensory overload can persist. Continue offering support after the festivities, and re-establish a familiar routine to provide comfort and predictability.
This Bonfire Night, let’s ensure all neurodiverse children feel safe and cherished. They deserve love and understanding, just like everyone else and our pets. We can help create beautiful memories that last long after the festivities end with compassion and patience.